I’ve said this many times and I’ll say it again. I was friends with my husband for 10years, was in relationship with him for 5years, still, the first year of our Marriage was ‘discovery channel’ for me. I got some shocks!
Recently, I wrote about setting boundaries for dating couples who have physical touch as their primary love language. But I think I wrote with an assumption that people know where to draw the lines. On deeper thought, I’ve seen that people act in different ways for different reasons. Some people know what’s right, but they give justification for whatever else they ‘choose’ to do.
Last week, I got talking to a lady who recently got a job in a location not too far from where she lived, not long after resuming at the new place, she moved house to an area very far from where she was before. I got curious and asked why she had to move house, also considering the fact that her salary could not sustain the fare to her new ‘home’. She first told me she just felt like moving house.
It’s been an amazing 10 weeks back to back of online radio series with Praise Fowowe on issues concerning relationships for singles and married people. We have treated topics like child sexual abuse, househelps, Gucci weds Versace, Understanding the major differences between men and women, etc. We have experienced growth in attendance at the webinars and we’ve also received very heart warming feedback from people who have attended so far. We’ve had people attend from different parts of the world, and we have only just begun. It’s been fulfilling and fun!
The last article i wrote held a major assumption; that the husband has a stronger sex drive that the wife, this is because that’s what obtains in most cases. In this article, i’ll still ride on that assumption but will address the issue of sex from the woman’s perspective.
Women are emotional. They do things most times not only because it makes sense to do it, but they feel good doing it.
Last weekend, one of my aburos got married. As usual, i was really excited! Of course, i saw her radiance and glow. I saw and could tell how happy they both were. It was a day they had looked forward to for a number of years when they first met. They were so excited you could feel it! That’s what you see in most wedding ceremonies, isn’t it? As i looked at them, i saw a couple who could give full expression to each other, with no holds barred from that day because they had been able to hold bodi till their wedding day.
There’s a trend i’ve noticed overtime. Certain people have had really tough times growing up. Some people sponsored themselves through school and sold everything imaginable to be able to raise funds to move past that phase of life. They finally struggle through school and graduate; then they submit CVs at different places in search of a job to no avail. After a few years of job hunting, luck shines on them. They get a good paying job and their lives begin to change! They start settling down. It’s then payback time; time to buy everything they were deprived of while growing up, time to shame poverty! They look to the future and tell themselves they never want to be faced with any of such ugly memories.