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For a while now, the subject of finding a life partner has undergone a series of interesting phases. In the days of our parents and before then, people either had arranged marriages or got married to people purely because they liked them. But with time, young people began to learn from the mistakes of the old and decided to be more informed and prepared. The importance of seeking God’s face in getting a marriage partner became apparent. So, people took it very seriously, prayed, and fasted to get clarity from God.

LOVE (Ladies only pls….)


Yesterday, i attended a bridal shower and it was a lot of fun. It was a girls day out and the “brides to be” were fired with questions from all fronts. There were some statements that were made that i responded briefly to. Today, i’ll be writing on one of the points discussed, for the benefit of my readers.


      “No person is free who is not master of himself.” – Epictetus, Greek philosopher

I started writing on the functions/roles of emotions in my last post. I’ll continue in this one.

3) Boundary Setting

When we feel uncomfortable with a person’s behavior, our emotions alert us. If we learn to trust our emotions and feel confident expressing ourselves we can let the person know we feel uncomfortable as soon as we are aware of our feeling. This will help us set our boundaries which are necessary to protect us from the danger of being hurt and or disappointed.


Emotion according to wikipedia, is “a mental and physiological state associated with a wide variety of feelings, thoughts, and behaviours. It is a prime determinant of the sense of subjective well-being and appears to play a central role in many human activities.” Emotions are powerful and hence, there’s a need to manage them well. If emotions are not well managed, they could mess up one’s dreams and relationships.


You are the salt of the earth, but if the salt loses its flavor, how shall it be seasoned? It is then good for nothing but to be thrown out and trampled under-foot by men.” – Matt 5:13 (NKJ)

There was a period when it seemed as if everyone around me who i had trusted over the years began to degenerate as far as strength of character was concerned. It was as if you had to search long and very hard to find people who were morally upright.