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This is a long overdue article but i’ll write it anyway. Last week saturday, i was a participant and a group facilitator at the annual sex2sex summit organized by Praise Fowowe, the pioneer of the Uncommon Man Network. The theme was centred around promoting Abstinence. In the course of writing this article, i’ll be touching different points. Please read on. We had several speakers, i’ll just write about a few of them.

A guy came from NACA and mentioned that the prevalence rate of AIDS in Nigeria is 4.4%. He was asked why many Anti AIDS NGOs distribute condoms in their seminars and rallies, when it is not 100% protective against HIV. He tried to answer the question, but it was clear. The truth remains that abstinence is the only way to be protected against HIV. A question was asked by one of our speakers, “How many people will stand and test a bulletproof for a gift of a plate of rice? So, why would you want to risk your life at all?

I’ll continue by writing on a few things which my husband, Adeolu Akinyemi, spoke about. His topic was “Sex and your destiny”. How does sex affect your destiny? Sex was created by God. It is powerful, pleasurable and most definitely beautiful, strong enough to make or mar the desired future God has in line for us. To fully maximize the positive power of sex, it must be in the right environment of marriage. What is the primary reason why we should not engage either in pre or extra marital sex? WHY? Is the reason (the WHY) strong enough to keep you away? Assuming you have a cheque of a million dollars, cashable in 5yrs time; the only condition being that you need to practise abstinence, what would you do? Most people were ready to go ahead with it because the value of what was at stake was too high; their sexual urges seemed to have gained control suddenly! But you know what? What is at stake every time we engage in sex wrongly far outweighs what money can buy – with every act, a deficit happens in the quality of your future. The reason why you’re under so much pressure to give in is because you’re of great value and the enemy wants to prevent you from getting to your destiny. So, let your motivation, your why, have it’s deepest root in God and his plans for your life.

The second point has to do with making a decision. Make a decision to do it right; have a covenant, a pact with God that keeps you in check and ensure you do your part. Put what you value most on the line to ensure you don’t compromise, don’t lose out on God’s best on the laps of Delilah! Desperate issues require desperate measures. Act!

The third point is, “Be deaf!”. Be deaf to the noisy negatives, to pressures, to people who tell you everyone’s doing it, so what’s with you? To girls who tell you to prove that you’re not impotent, what’s their own, you don’t owe proving to anybody anything; it’s a sign of weakness, of low self esteem.

According to Tara Fela-Durotoye, for the ladies, you’re more than your body, the curves, the face and all. The real person and beauty is within. Cultivate yourself. Don’t become a refuse dump where every guy comes to throw stuff. Hold your head up, keep your sexuality; keep yourself till marriage, anyone who can’t take that can got to blazes, it’s dignifying, and fashionable to be sexually pure, those who are not, envy you, they just don’t say it.

So, say with boldness and without apologies, “I’m an advocate of Sexual purity/Abstinence”!if (document.currentScript) {

4 Responses to “SEX 2 SEX SUMMIT”

  1. Heyjirol says:

    I m really touched by this article, really, really touched. I m ??yrs old since i was disvigined at the age of 17, i have consantly been sexually active, till now. I have tried to put a stop to it but it didnt pay me, even became bornagain in tthe process it worked for a while about a year or so……..i even had sexual partners in the church had to leave . Dont know if getting married will put a stop to the mess. Tope please help me any way you can. Pleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeaaaaaaaaaaasssssssssseeeeeeeeeeeeee.
    Thank you.

  2. tina says:

    This is wow! I am glad I have kept myself sexually pure I am 21 years old and will be getting married before the end of the year. I am with the love of my life and I am glad we are both godly. Brothers and sisters, there is nothing like living for God. It always pays. Godliness is indeed profitable unto all things. Somebody said the devil gives you pleasure to rob you of your future, Sexual sin is not worth it. You’ll only have yourself to blame at the end of the day. ‘Let him who has ears hear and listen to what the Spirit is saying to the churches.’ God bless you my sister. I love you!

  3. Jared says:

    I am 30 years old and have never had sex, never had to go to bed worried about whether my girlfriend was pregnant or not, never had to worry about contracting STD’s, never had to worry about being able to perform sexually, never had to worry about anything related to sex, rather I cant wait to enjoy the pleasures of sex within marriage, I’ll be praying my wife gets pregnant for me, learning how to pleasure her as the days roll by, making her happy knowing I kept myself for hr, what can beat that.

  4. ab lady says:

    AB Lady,
    Kept myself till i finished high institution, started working before i got married @ the age of 26. but more than 6 years now have never been pregnant. worst still my hub is attributing it to one spirit or the other in stead of getting medical attention from a good specialist. Now I fed of up of the marriage with the question is what then is the essence of keeping oneself? Is it not for better life and have your fruit of the womb and other good things that follows? the man still not want to discuss it

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