Many married people have regrets about some decisions surrounding their getting married. Some see issues with when they decided to get married (too early, too late). Others blame family, peer pressure, etc. Today, we’re looking at timing/age. If you believe you were too young when you got married, so what are you going to do about it? You’re married already, face it! Marriage lessons are mostly on the job training types, so when you quit living in regrets and take responsibility for making your marriage work is when it begins to work. Yes you can. Make it work; morning
I once had a short write up on my Face book wall about different ways parents show love to their children. My main thrust was that it’s not very healthy for parents to kiss their children on the lips, and I tried to explain why. The reason is very simple. The lips are private to anyone, young or old. What makes a part of the body private? It’s not “allowed” or it’s unhealthy for anyone to touch or “play with” that part of the body.
Religion or Spirituality is a topic that dating couples don’t treat deeply before marriage. In Nigeria where most people are religious, the less religious party in the relationship simply cooperates with the stronger one who drags him/her to church, so the ‘flow’ of the relationship can be smooth.
Sex is so powerful. I’ve seen sex cause and colour issues, it has broken homes, messed people up; On the nice side, plenty of sex has made many married couples begin to look and think alike! Don’t ask me, that’s what I heard:)
“I find it difficult to be just friends with someone of the opposite sex without getting emotionally involved”. “We were like 5 and 6 when we were going out, but as soon as we got married, everything changed; we became like total strangers”. “It feels strange marrying him just like that, seeing we only just met”. “We’ve been friends for a few years, but that’s all i wanna have with him, just friendship”!
Many dating couples or people in courtship never really discuss HOW they’ll handle their finances after marriage. They just assume that they’ll figure it out.