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This blog contains articles that will help you achieve quality wholesome relationships, especially with God and in your marriages; and by extension, other people. Take a dive. Enjoy!!
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Busy Executive, Entrepreneur, Professional; are a few labels with which we are known in society. However, at the base of how we are seen in society, lie our relationships. When our relationships are healthy and wholesome, then our expressions at school, work, in business, and our different expressions flow unhindered. We are able to come up with fresh ideas, bounce back from challenges more easily and better; because our most important relationships are on point. This blog contains articles that will help you achieve quality wholesome relationships, especially with God and in your marriages; and by extension, other people. Take a dive. Enjoy!!
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Temitope Akinyemi is an exceptional organizer and completer finisher. In a world where many people start projects and hand off when the going gets tough, Temitope has a passion for executing and finishing. She excels well in leadership and support leadership roles in operations and marketing. She also authors, trains and counsels.
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Mood this morning. As against taking a picture at the end of the day, I decided to take some just before the heat of the day entered full gear…….
I’m grateful to be a woman on a mission, an entrepreneur, God’s light bearer. We move!
Don’t mind the opened mouth and jumpology 🤣🤩
#tgif
#grateful
Picture 1: Yesterday, I tried making couscous for the first time. It wasn’t bad at all. Took note of things to improve on next time.
Picture 2: I steamed the veggies in a way I’ve not done before for the first time. It was nice and crunchy & went well with the Jollof rice.
All these things one still combines with zoom meetings, plenty online and offline meetings, mummy duties, board room, za aza room, and so on. Ko easy! I salute all mothers and mothers to be. I’m really inclined to agree that this plenty Mother’s Day is not bad at all 🤣😜
Happy Mother’s Day to all amazing women out there who slug it out on all fronts and still package and show up wearing different caps as occasions demand. May the Lord give wisdom to keep being destiny moulders and partners with Him in discipling nations.
Happy Sunday People!!!
#mothersday
#happysunday
#destinymoulders
#trynewthings
Happy!
Grateful!
I just finished putting on paper God’s word to me for this new year. It’s humbling and exciting!
Thank you Jesus!
#likeseriouslytemitope
#happybirthdaytome
#aprilbaby
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Two days ago, I was at a get together organized for a newly wed couple. In attendance were a blend of mostly singles and some married people. Along the line, the MC welcomed comments and people began to share freely about their desire to get married as well as concerns and fears. Of core mention was the worrisomely increasing statistics of failed marriages these days; and some of the people in attendance kept stressing the need to test the person they want to marry very well before saying “I do”.
My question however is this; “quite unlike older generations, people have embraced the concept of live-in lovers, prolonged dating/engagement, premarital sex and so on more these days, yet, marriages are failing faster and in greater numbers now than before. What does this say about the philosophy we have embraced in this generation”? Are there things we should know that will make us not be among the failed marriage numbers?
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Have a beautiful Sunday & week ahead!
One remote control has been missing for months now…………Na Dem
Sister Ireoluwa’s phone went missing for days and we later found it in the most awkward place……..Na Dem
Big brother Araoluwa’s phone disappeared months ago and is still nowhere to be found till date………Na Dem
One leg of shoe or slippers disappearing and reappearing is becoming the norm……..Na Dem
Dismantling shoes and anything in sight beyond repair………Na Dem
Heavy scribbling on very important books placed in places we felt were unreachable for now………Na Dem
We recently found him “keeping” another remote in the deep freezer……….Na Dem o
Pen nko? He decided that the sink was the best place for it to be……….Na Dem o
After he began smashing some of the content of the fridge, we have started locking it with key……..Na Dem
Going for my phone and snapping meaningful and awkward pictures at the rate of 100 shots per minute……..Na Dem o
Wanting to share the screen and laptop with me or his Dad during zoom meetings……Na Dem
I could go on and on………that's how we roll these days o!
I’ll like to share some of the shots “Na Dem” has taken just within the past 7 days. Enjoy!
#tgif
#happyweekend
#ifeoluwafanclub
"Lessons from My Daughter & I (African Mother Geng)" is the latest post on my blog. It’s funny, instructive, and a 2 minute read pere!
Where are my fellow African mothers? Oya, pls go click link in my bio, read, like, share and drop a comment.
Have a beautiful weekend!
#africanmothergeng
#mydaughterandI
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Late 2006/2007, I and hubby were thrown into the deep end of business. All the promises we had for training and consulting jobs were entering voicemail, and the proposal submissions and follow up calls were yielding nothing. This season was when hubby began his blog. And like the correct guy that he is (I didn't feel so then…….lol), he encouraged me to start writing. I started reluctantly.
Fourteen years down the line, so many waters have passed under the bridge. I've written several articles on relationships for single and married, business, life lessons and walk with God. After some time, I took my writing to facebook, but I decided to relaunch my blog this year.
So, here goes!!! That's why I love what I do in this light. Some of the posts on my blog are almost 10 years old and they're as valuable now as they were then; evergreen!
Please take a tour, drop a comment, share with a friend, give feedback on your visit to www.topeakinyemi.com
Thanks so much family and have a Lovely Thursday!
Our MUMU don do……!
For every marriage that is working, there is at least one “mumu” per time. In some cases, one person plays the mumu almost all the time. Other times, the roles change. Before you say I don’t know what i’m saying, me too I do “strong head” many times and I know where it ends. Once someone chooses to see beyond self, every issue can be solved by talking through it.
When you choose to not be the “mumu” and expect your spouse to, you can win arguments, have moments to gloat and feel gratified that you did not “agree”, but gradually lose your relationship.
Marriage is not a place to “stand up for your rights.” Marriage is a decision to serve the other, whether in bed or out. 1 Cor 7:4-5 MSG
In marriage, as in life, the higher road is the service lane. It may not appear so at the beginning, but it will show in time. When both parties strive to serve one another, the union becomes a case of heaven on earth.
N.B: Pls don't ask me how we are sharing the Mumu role in our family, or if it tilts to one side; we are sha working it out. Tenk you!😜 I will also not mind someone helping me interpret what Mumu means in English and many other languages so the post can benefit all readers 🤣
#makeyourmarriagework
#taketheservicelane
Four days ago, I decided to walk home after work (I do that quite often, especially when I’m behind on my steps for the day), and on my way, my eyes caught a lady who was hawking dried prawns and sea food. My mind went to the dish I saw on YouTube and had planned to cook this weekend 😜 I casually asked her how much it was and she insisted I help her drop her wares so I could see the market well 🤣. I hesitated, then went ahead.
As soon as she dropped it and I asked for the price, it was twice the cash I had at hand. I was quick to dismiss her and offered to help her place her “load” back on her head as I didn’t have enough money. Her response shocked me! She said I could do a transfer! She wasn’t taking No for an answer. My people, I transferred the money to her and headed home. I couldn’t get over that experience; got home and told hubby; I even taught a few of my team members in our training yesterday about it.
That’s not all. The next day, I decided to walk home again. I caught a glimpse of her as she walked towards me around where I had seen her the day before. This time around, she had another variety of fish with her. I greeted her warmly and commended her on what she did the day before. As I wanted to walk past her, she asked if I wasn’t going to buy her fish. I told her I didn’t have water yam that the fish would normally go with. Her response shocked me again! She said it’s dry fish and would not spoil! Make I buy am keep. I burst into laughter as I knew she was so right. As I no wan gree, she asked for my phone number. Haaaaa!!!🤩🤩
I was wowed! Back to back, she demonstrated to me that a closed mouth is a closed destiny. The things we teach entrepreneurs and they struggle with was what she was practising effortlessly👍🏾💪🏾.
Our “book” and “levels” seem to be getting in the way of marketing and selling what we have. Our fear of rejection is keeping our lips sealed. No matter what you do, not being able to win another party over leaves you at a disadvantage. Some are affected in their marriages, some in their careers, some in their businesses. We are not all extroverts, but we can all learn what to say to achieve what we desire👌🏾.
This my spouse ehn……..
This post is not for everyone. Infact, it’s not necessarily for all married people, especially those who feel I don’t know their spouse or what he/she is capable of. This is my attempt to give counsel to someone. If it’s for you, you will know……
Dear Married Man/Woman, is there something your spouse does that you don’t like? Is there something you would like for your spouse to do, for him/herself or together with you and you’ve been talking about it for years, but nothing has changed? I have something to share with you. Stop talking about it; directly or indirectly. It’s ok!
I don’t know how this works, but after being married for about 18 years, I realized that not too long after I stop “nagging” about some things (not everything o…..lol), things change. I’ll share a personal example and hope it helps someone.
For some years now, I have been talking to hubby about having a regular exercise routine, but he just never found it exciting to do it. You would wonder, shebi it’s his health and he should take it seriously? No way. He started swimming at some point, then stopped. I on the other hand, always started and stopped; either joining the gym, jogging, even got a treadmill at home, but doing this thing alone wasn’t working.
So, this year, while working on action steps towards my fitness goals, I decided to download an app to count my steps daily. As I downloaded it, hubby checked what I was doing and decided to join me. Experience taught me not to get too excited. I set a goal for my day steps and he set his own as well. Along the line, we decided to convert stepping time to bible study and prayer time. Before I knew what was happening, he was leading daily in number of steps (over 10,000 steps daily on most days!) Infact, he challenged me to pay him 1k on any day he achieved more steps than me! I was like, wow! 😲😲
I realized he really wanted to do it, but wanted it to be fun and more productive than just exercising. He needed an angle to do what I had been suggesting, and when he found it, he joined me without being told afresh.
If we take action, we die. If we hold back from taking action, we still die.
Friend, why then are you allowing yourself to be held back by fear?
It's not going to be a different month because it's new. It will be because you decide to act inspite of fear, on what you've known all this while, and God, who makes everything work together, will work you into his most excellent harmonies.
Welcome to the month of March family!
#newmonth
#takeaction
#WeMove
#greenmondays
Our regular sunday lunch is rice (Jollof, fried, white with stew or gravy, etc); but last sunday, I had no clue what to prepare. During the drive home from church, I planned to get plantain to go with the whatever rice I eventually decided to make.
As we got close to the plantain seller, I saw the aboki selling vegetables and the colors on his barrow caught my attention (red, yellow and green bell pepper). I bought some of each of them and some carrots, still not sure what to make of it. As we drove home, stir fry came to mind. I had never made it before but I’ve eaten it plenty of times.
I entered the kitchen and started slicing the peppers. Then I went on YouTube. To cut the long story short, after a couple of rewinds, pauses and more, the result is right before your eyes. And before you say maybe it just looks good, hubby asked for a repeat of the same meal for dinner. That’s rare! 😂
Morale of my story: Once you have an idea of what you want, move. As you do, things will get clearer.
Things are not as impossible as they seem at face value.
You can get it right the first time if you take time to look for help.
N.B: This picture was taken two days ago, I will be lying if I say come and eat 🤣😜😂
#gethelp
#impossibleisnothing
#wemove
It was me, then she was born three years after. Yes! I’m that old, and she had zero respect growing up 🤣😂 We seemed so different when we were much younger, went to different schools largely, and I didn’t feel we would be close as such. However, our different journeys have connected us in exciting ways & i’m grateful.
I’ve got the most amazing immediate sister in the whole world! Abi how do you explain someone who worked with the big 4 consulting and oil companies and kept insisting she would come home to bathe Ireoluwa after work everyday for monthssss when she was a baby? Abi shopping up and down with or without me for Ifeoluwa?
Sound, Sassy, gorgeous, lover of Jesus, yet so deeply caring. She would carry your matter for head ooooo! She’s amazing value if she needs to work with you on anything.
Tunzie is an asset to family, nation, the church and she’s the life of the party! How do you combine so much intelligence with being so fun and full of life? You are soooo blessed Tunra!
Tunraskokoroewa! Aya Tunde! You are 40!! Wow! It’s undoubtedly an exciting new season for you on all fronts. I declare that the world is yet to see and experience the amazon that you are. May you keep unfolding, be blessed and keep being a blessing! May higher level of clarity and wisdom mark the years ahead. Love you Muchos!😍🥰
“RUN! ALL HAS BEEN DISCOVERED”
I had a different kind of sunday today, out of my regular location, but with people I desire to spend more time with. As I sat to listen to God’s word at the home church, the first story that was shared struck me, and God instructed me to share it with as many as I can.
A rich man selected a few of his friends, and sent an sms to them. It read thus:
“RUN! All has been discovered”
As soon as the friends got the text message, they packed all they could and ran; some out of the country and others out of town. When they got to their various destinations, they began to call their rich friend who sent the sms one by one; asking what had been discovered. He responded to each of them by saying there was nothing, as he was only testing them…….🙄🙄😱🙈
Before you call these people dull and impulsive for not calling before fleeing, or blame the rich guy for playing such a silly prank, let’s focus on one thing from this story. Dear friend, if you get this kind of message, what is that “thing” that would come to your mind?
It’s time to be set free from the prisons built by those “well kept” secrets. It’s time to run to God’s waiting embrace. Nothing is hidden from Him. It’s time to reconcile with God and man and live free indeed. Family and friends may judge you harshly, but you owe it to your overall health (spirit, soul/mental & body) to share with those closest to you. You may say I don’t understand, but it will come out eventually; and when it does, you may not be able to control how far it will go and how it is narrated!
And guess what? If man judges you, God loves you eternally. Know that, and revel in that.
I believe this will be helpful to someone. Have a fantastic week ahead. Blessings!
#godlovesyou
#happysunday
And we are standing here, only because He made a way! 🙌🏾🙏
Welcome to February family! ❤️
Boarding house gives us an idea of what happens in the larger, obviously messed up society. I think this calls for the need to prepare our children to face society; beyond simply focusing on shielding them for a season.
Some shielded children become messed up in University (home or abroad), some during NYSC.
It’s important to address the root, which starts from training & encouraging them to speak up, instead of addressing & fighting what we cannot control. I certainly respect people’s choices of whether they want to send their children to boarding school or not; but some of the reasons don’t solve the problem if we don’t address the root.
I saw seniors practising lesbianism live for the first time in boarding house (1992 or so), but it was in 1989 in the same school that the foundation of my faith in Jesus was laid.
Indeed, these times require more focused efforts on all fronts. May our children be taught of the Lord.
#boardinghouse
#parenting
#reflections
#hccc
#family
It’s been a day of work, making decisions, meetings and stuff. On our way back home this evening from my last meeting, my driver pointed my attention to one woman who sells very good groundnut. Seeing it wasn’t our regular route, and being someone who “hears word”, I told him to reverse. We bought a bottle and just as I was paying, my eyes caught the “guguru” (that’s the name for locally popped corn) and my mind went down memory lane.
Long story short, pls join me on my guguru and epa combo. That’s less than half of what I bought. The exercise of crushing the guguru mixed with the nut flavor brought back memories indeed. I will finish the rest during thank God It’s Friday. Isssa lotta chewing work. Join me abeg before it finishes.
My fitfam gang, don’t judge me pls. I will take Rida afterwards. Tenks! And thank God It’s Friday!!!
#memories
#pushforgift
#delightfuldecember
#grateful
#likeseriouslytemitope
There are many talented people who are broke. Some of them are bitter because they believe they deserve more. They sometimes talk down on their less talented old classmates who seem to be doing better financially. Hmmm…..
In the laws of wealth creation, talent gives NO GUARANTEE for wealth, even though it is a key requirement (mastery) for it.
It's strange that what is most important in succeeding is simple, yet missable. They did not teach us in school o! It has to do with a WAY OF THINKING. And I went through this in a training recently. I also just went through a part of the material this afternoon to refresh myself.
I'll be willing to share this material with 5 people who will commit to reading it. Slide into my DM and ask for it. I'm giving it for FREE.
If there's any time to get your thinking right, it's NOW!
#thinkinginacertainway
#TalentIsNotEnough
#2021loading
N.B: As I was doing my thing, the babe in red was displaying modeling talent 😘
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