This week has been very demanding and thankfully, productive. The week was almost ending and i discovered i had not written a single post, so i decided against all odds to do so. I’ll make this a very brief one.
About two days ago, i was speaking with a guy who had been in a relationship for a few years with a lady and he was telling me that a date had been fixed for the wedding. I replied that it was high time they got married since they had been at it for a while. He said “yes o, i need to be taken care of, abeg.” I smiled and made a mental note of the statement and decided to write something about it.
I began to wonder at the guy’s perspective. I think ladies also get married thinking that they need to be taken care of as well, abi? So what happens when both parties get married with the same mindset? Issues will arise for sure! Of course, if both parties are open to change, the issues won’t last for long.
This article will be a very short one. I’m not faulting the statement made by the guy i wrote about earlier; I just have one or two questions; is it alright for a person to have a bad habit, refuse to work on it, believing that the spouse will do the magic? Is it healthy to be absolutely dependent on your spouse for something and be helpless whenever he/she is not around?
I’ll simply say that anyone going into marriage should do so with the intention to give; and not with the fairy tale mindset that the spouse is complete and without shortcomings, and so can meet all one’s emotional wants and needs at every time. A relationship is more fulfilling and enjoyable when both parties know that they need to give.
Have a fantastic weekend!}