It’s beautiful to blessed with lovely children and moreso, when you have male and female; but it’s not so for everyone and how one handles this goes a long way in determining how the family and especially the children will turn out. I wonder why extended family members mount pressure on the wife of “their son” if she happens to have only girls.
I went to visit someone in the hospital recently who had just given birth to her third child, a girl, after two girls. She laid on the bed, very tired, she mentioned that she had never been that tired after a delivery before. I could feel what was responsible for the tiredness, it was more psychological than physical. Her in-laws had started blaming her after she had her second daughter, now she would have to face them again; most of them are not literate and so are very traditional.
Several questions raced through my mind which i’ll like the guys that read to answer. How would you handle this if you were the husband? Do you really think the in-laws should have so much say in one’s family affairs? A very interesting trend i discovered however is that in most cases, women in the extended families are the ones who really blame the “wife” for giving birth to only girls. Is it that guys feel as bad but don’t verbalize their thoughts or are they indifferent, or are some men aware that they determine the sex of the child and so take responsibility?
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Didn’t know that abigirl or sorry Abigael meant giving birth to a female child…..lol but seriously for me a male child or female child it wouldn’t matter.What’s more important is for the kids to turn out the best and exert their full potentials in life
God bless you tope. I celebrate you cos you are an example of a real woman. God bless you my sista and do know that i cherish your writings. Blessed are thou amongst all women
Good stuff,
But i know that to determine the sex of a baby its usually determined by the male bcos they have both X and Y chromosome.
Be it a boy or a girl they are both blessing from God.
The lady should take courage and take care of her babes coz women are no longer relegated to the back anymore. So if they are well trained they Could become the next Hillary Clinton of our time…
Oga oo. In this information age. So there are still people who believes that it is women that determines the gender of a child. Well, you had better let them know that it is a man that determines the gender of a child…Thank you misidreads..Thank you for the topic too Mrs. Tope
Great post and a great blog too!
For the women who blame mama abigirl, i think they are just being spiteful,you know how some women are, especially the unbelievers.For the men,i hope the new age has thought all men that the responsibility of a baby’s gender solely lies with the father.Any accusing finger should be directed at him.