Don’t mind me, i couldn’t resist using this picture yet again! Back in the days when men were mostly on the field and women took care of the home, there was very little confusion about who did what; roles were pretty clear. But these days when women can get to the top of the corporate ladder just like men or even achieve more, there’s a need to define roles within the home. This is vital as it can be a major source of conflict in the early months of marriage.
In Africa where I come from, men are not used to apologizing to anyone, let alone women even when it’s glaring they’re wrong. I dare say that a good number of us grew up seeing our fathers as the ‘king of the jungle’. Their word was law and you probably never saw them display any sign of weakness; let alone apologize!
In my last note, I mentioned that conflicts have a potential of destroying an evening, a week, a month, or a lifetime!
I found this picture hilarious, i just had to use it! Pls don’t tell me it doesn’t go with the title! lol! Now to today’s gist…….. I and hubby grew up in similar backgrounds; so I never really thought we would have major disagreements. When we were in courtship, we seemed extremely compatible and agreeable most times.
I am not saying that the lady you marry will turn out to be exactly like her mother, or that the man will be exactly like his father. I am saying that you are both greatly influenced by your parents. An apple does not fall far from the tree!
At 1st glance, this point looks like a repetition of the “love is not enough” point, but let’s take a closer look.
It’s been an amazing 10 weeks back to back of online radio series with Praise Fowowe on issues concerning relationships for singles and married people. We have treated topics like child sexual abuse, househelps, Gucci weds Versace, Understanding the major differences between men and women, etc. We have experienced growth in attendance at the webinars and we’ve also received very heart warming feedback from people who have attended so far. We’ve had people attend from different parts of the world, and we have only just begun. It’s been fulfilling and fun!
The last article i wrote held a major assumption; that the husband has a stronger sex drive that the wife, this is because that’s what obtains in most cases. In this article, i’ll still ride on that assumption but will address the issue of sex from the woman’s perspective. Women are emotional. They do things most times not only because it makes sense to do it, but they feel good doing it.
There’s a trend i’ve noticed overtime. Certain people have had really tough times growing up. Some people sponsored themselves through school and sold everything imaginable to be able to raise funds to move past that phase of life. They finally struggle through school and graduate; then they submit CVs at different places in search of a job to no avail. After a few years of job hunting, luck shines on them. They get a good paying job and their lives begin to change! They start settling down. It’s then payback time; time to buy everything they were deprived of