On reading this topic, what comes to mind? Fast food, naturally…..the chicken & chips, the pizzas, burgers, rice n chicken and lots more. But today, we’ll be looking at things a little differently, in another context, the context of a spouse – a life partner, more specifically tilted towards the female gender. I think for perspective, i should just try and define each of the terms in my own special way.
When you walk into a fast food restaurant with a friend with a plan to stay, and down all your meal/snack/order while you’re there. While eating, some might fall on the table or floor, and the cleaner promptly sweeps and disposes off it. After eating, you may even use their convenience and “download” before leaving for wherever else is on your schedule for the day. Who knows? You could even leave the premises as close to hungry as when you came in and thoughts of the possibility of jamming that “suya man” on your street before he closes for the day might have started running through your mind.
The eat-in babe is an answer to an almost urgent, immediate need. Not much thought is given to “eating” her. She also honestly doesn’t mind a quickie, a fling, a person met at an event and things kick off on the high immediately, just maybe someday, one of those can become something serious. It’s a mindset that lives in the now; believes that good relationships/marriages are old fashioned and hardly exist. After the guy leaves the restaurant, she’s as good as forgotten; there’s little or no value.
Take a typical day when you’re running late for a meeting but very hungry; all you need to do is stop by a fast food restaurant, grab a bite with the plan to munch on the go. So, you probably finish it all up on the way, clean up, and if you’re a good citizen, wait till you get to your destination before you dispose of the waste. Then, you’re set and prepared for your meeting.
The take away babe gets into a relationship on the go. Her relationships change as the locations change, so some take weeks, some months. There seems to be a huge need for completeness per time; there’s a lot of focus on “me” in this case as well as a lot of talk about her “fantasy relationship” but no depth/content/long term thinking. There’s a craving to match up with societal expectations.
Take a look at this scenario. It’s been a long day at work. You long for the peace and tranquility of your home, and having dinner whichever way you want it, in the privacy of your home and at your own pace. You can truly enjoy every bite without feeling self conscious or distracted by your environment. You’re not likely to waste the food if you can’t finish it; you can always refridgerate and microwave it later. The main point of the take home is that of true value, no wastage and no urgency and undue rush to get the food in and get things over with.
The take home babe is balanced and prepared – spiritually, emotionally, mentally for a long term relationship. This takes several years of self development, learning so as to have the right mindset to be a take home babe. That’s where many people wish to be but their actions don’t align. They want to eat or get eaten quickly, in case they don’t make it home.
How do you see yourself? Do you see sufficient value in yourself to warrant your waiting to be taken home? Is the idea just desirable or are you putting in the discipline required to make it happen? Are you an eat in, take away or take home babe?
My dear ladies, you deserve the best if you’ve invested in yourself to be the best and move with the kind of people you want to attract. Put yourself to use so that you can be useful, then valuable, then desirable. Home is where you belong, make it there, to the right home, the home, your own home. I look forward to seeing your wedding IVs!