A few months ago, I was chatting with a very dear friend, she’s in her 60s (i’m blessed with a number of them) and I commented on how particular she was about details in whatever she does. She was like, really? She noted that it had become a part of her because she grew up with a no-nonsense father who would give you a dirty slap if you did anything haphazardly, and I mean anything at all! She lived in fear before her Dad but turned out ensuring things are always well done. That is one quality I admire about her. Give her stuff to do and go to bed! She’ll deliver excellently!
As she said that, in the same breath, she spoke about her son who speaks with her so freely and wondered about how her Dad would’ve viewed her parenting style. She spoke about her parenting journey and how she had tried to achieve balance inspite of how she was raised. She then went ahead to talk about how, in order to avoid or run away from being as mean as the older generation, many have flung to the other extreme. She had too many examples to share. Let’s take a look at some points especially as relates to 21st Century parenting:
Talking about parenting, will ensuring you don’t hurt your children’s feelings make you an effective parent?
By not wanting to be mean, have you become weak as a parent?
By not wanting to fail your children, do you give them everything they ask for?
If your children are happy with all your decisions, have you really started this parenting work?
Train up a child in the way he should go (not in the way he enjoys or likes)……..
In God, we find a balance of love and discipline. May God find us good & faithful stewards.
Beware of extremes. The time your children appreciate your work as a parent is after they’ve grown. Keep investing the seeds of love & discipline without holding any back. Think about it…….