I find it very sad and disheartening, the rate at which i hear reported cases of Pastors who sleep with their female church members. It’s a scourge and a cancer that’s running so wild, i wonder how it became so bad so fast. I have heard of countless cases; let’s not check the gory details at all.
What cases should we address? Is it the Pastor that mounts the pulpit to preach immediately after having sex with a lady in his office, or the one that claims his penis is God’s instrument for delivering the barren? Is it the Pastor that doesn’t even limit his “acts” to one or a few, but many?
If i may ask, do you have a friend or you know someone, probably a friend’s friend, who has been, or is currently a victim of the acts of these “men of God” who “devour” the sheep kept in their care by God or “themselves”?
I have had a near experience with a Pastor in my school fellowship before. There was the annual convocation event in school that day, so everywhere was rowdy and busy. I had a couple of older friends who had their convocation on the same day; and my fellowship pastor had his on the same day as well so i didn’t see him that day. I passed by his room as i headed to a friend’s block, and decided to drop by and congratulate him. I met him alone in his room (he just got in, apparently) and i greeted him with a hug, and that was normal in our fellowship. He held on to me after, and before i knew it, he was already aroused. I freed myself quickly and headed for the door and out. He called me back and apologized for what he was about doing; and went on to explain that he had a weakness in the area of women and needed me to pray along with him. I never stepped into his room after then. That day was one of his last days in school; so i didn’t get to see him till he left finally. I got back to my room and wondered what had been going on between him and the ladies that were regularly around him….
I have zero tolerance for the act of taking advantage of young ladies who are already faced with the struggles of right living by the same people that should show the way. Many of the ladies who fall victim get to hear later that the pastor had already committed the same atrocities with a number of ladies in the church. Here are a few things i’ll advise the person who has been or is, a victim of such act to do:
1) Don’t keep quiet about it. Voice it out to someone you trust, especially an older person, immediately. The possibility that it will happen again is very high.
2) Leave the church! It’s surprising based on my research when i saw that many of those ladies still stay in the church for whatever reason that i don’t understand especially if the pastor founded the church. What exactly are you still doing there? Staying around poisons you even further; your perspective of right/wrong begins to shift and it doesn’t look like a big deal anymore.
3) Write an anonymous letter to someone you know mentors the pastor if you can’t tell him directly and follow up to ensure he calls him to order. This is for the sake of innocent female church members who have not yet been affected by the issue.
I have a few more things to say by way of advice. But i’ll want my readers to share their thoughts. What do you think? Do you think it’s sexual assault or a case of two consenting adults? I have tried hard to rid this article of emotions as much as possible and write with a clear head because i take this issue very personal. Let’s suggest what can be done; let’s salvage our future mothers from these “wolves in sheep clothing”.
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