For every marriage that is working, there is at least one “mumu” per time. In some cases, one person plays the mumu almost all the time. Other times, the roles change. Before you say I don’t know what i’m saying, me too I do “strong head” many times and I know where it ends. Once someone chooses to see beyond self, every issue can be solved by talking through it.
When you choose to not be the “mumu” and expect your spouse to, you can win arguments, have moments to gloat and feel gratified that you did not “agree”, but gradually lose your relationship.
Marriage is not a place to “stand up for your rights.” Marriage is a decision to serve the other, whether in bed or out. 1 Cor 7:4-5 MSG
In marriage, as in life, the higher road is the service lane. It may not appear so at the beginning, but it will show in time. When both parties strive to serve one another, the union becomes a case of heaven on earth.