Hello friends, i had to tell myself that this post has to come up today unfailingly. It’s been a battle of both my mind and time. Thank God, i made it! It’s no news that the global financial/economic crises is one of the most popular phrases used in these times. It’s also one the most convenient reasons people give when their business are not working well. I was listening to an audio speech yesterday by Noel Woodroffe where he outlined the fact that the crises started long ago, and that it ate gradually into the fabrics of the economy, until it resulted into a breakdown. He analyzed it all and linked the breakdown of systems to a fundamental breakdown in human values (greed). Human beings run systems and can make or mar them.
These days, there is so much focus on acquiring material things, having the comfort of life, and because of that, pressure is so high that it makes people think less of the implication of compromising on their values. It makes so much sense to dress, and “have” the things that make you look the part of a “big boy”.
What are the possible effects of these things on a marriage? Men are naturally egocentric and some men will not want their wives to know in many cases, for example, that they’re under financial pressure. Most pressure that one is in financially per time is self induced. It makes absolutely no sense to try and make a statement by the things you acquire. One of the major sources of marital pressures is finance, and this topic is huge.
How does one minimize financial pressures in marriage? I’ll mention the good old saying, “Get out- (or stay out) of debt”. There are lots of issues that come with financial pressure. “Owe no man anything except love” and “the borrower is the slave to the lender” are not just good ideas. There are some good times to owe (for business purposes) but definitely not for consumables. I see people who use certain phones or cars which they clearly can’t afford, why such pressure? I see guys who spend precious time going after big deals when even clearly, small deals are stretching for them….is this still ego or something else? When a man’s goals are too overwhelming for him, someone (most times, the wife) will bear the brunt of the pressure. It makes sense to build wealth gradually, so that if a downturn comes, one can build again.
When there is such pressure, some financial choices need to be made, and the bottomline needs to be, to ensure that one’s expenses fall below income; this is a vital lessons that young married people need to learn and remind themselves of constantly. Love can be expressed much easily when financial pressure is low, and ladies, we need to be sensitive and know when our men are under pressure, and strive not also be a source of it.