Trust is a five letter word which represents the foundation on which every relationship is built. A relationship is only as strong as the degree of trust exhibited by the people in it. Marriage is the strongest bond that can exist between a man and a woman and by its nature, it demands that a couple trust each other IMPLICITLY.
There can’t be trust in a marriage relationship when both parties did not tell each other EVERYTHING about their past lives before getting married. The person who tells half truth will believe the other person is also keeping some things away. Truth be told, the past is gone and there’s nothing that can be done about it, so why not tell it all? If the lady/guy can’t accept your past, you’re on your way to finding the person who will. I know it’s difficult, but it will prevent the occurences of rude surprises later in life. The dissapointment will only lead to more and more distrust.
Absolute trust gives one peace of mind, and good health too; you don’t have to watch your back or lie to cover up if you find yourself in an environment where you’re confronted by the actions of the past.
But is trust present in most marriages these days? If no, why not?
Certain people still carry around the hurt of past betrayal of trust and to some, they never got the opportunity to confront the party that betrayed their trust.Take this story for example, I once heard of a highly placed man who had a car accident which cost him his life, his wife and three children wept profusely when they heard the news. At the burial, another woman with three children showed up claiming to be his immediate family. Each party was unaware of the existence of the other. They lived in different parts of the country, in their own different worlds each thinking it was THE family. The man had a proper marriage for each of the women and ran the two homes concurrently till he died. I tried to imagine the thoughts that must have raced through the minds of the two women on hearing this revelation – they must have felt betrayed, cheated, heavily disappointed….. For those two people, it will take divine healing for them to trust anyone again.
I can see some people say, why trust when i’ve been betrayed before? To such people, i ask, “In this whole world, is there a human being you still trust? I know there is; if so, why? I believe you attract what you respect. If trust matters so much to you, then, be trustworthy, then you will attract the trust of others, especially, of that guy/lady you intend having a marriage relationship with. God will even honor you by giving you the person you deserve.